Understanding Attachment Styles

Quotes about attachment from Pooh

Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.

"Pooh," he whispered.

"Yes, Piglet?"

"Nothing," said Piglet, taking Pooh's hand. "I just wanted to be sure of you."

It occurred to Pooh and Piglet that they hadn't heard from Eeyore for several days, so they put on their hats and coats and trotted across the Hundred Acre Wood to Eeyore's house. Inside the house was Eeyore.

"Hello Eeyore," said Pooh.

"Hello Pooh. Hello Piglet" said Eeyore, in a Glum sounding voice.

"We just thought we'd check on you," said Piglet, "because we hadn't heard from you, and so we wanted to know if you were okay."

Eeyore was silent for a moment. "Am I okay?" he asked, eventually. "Well, I don't know, to be honest. Are any of us really okay? That's what I ask myself. All I can tell you, Pooh and Piglet, is that right now I feel really rather Sad, and Alone, and Not Much Fun To Be Around At All.

Which is why I haven't bothered you. Because you wouldn't want to waste your time hanging out with someone who is Sad, and Alone, and Not Much Fun To Be Around At All, would you now."

Pooh looked and Piglet, and Piglet looked at Pooh, and they both sat down, one on either side of Eeyore in his stick house.

Eeyore looked at them in surprise. "What are you doing?"

"We're sitting here with you," said Pooh, "because we are your friends. And true friends don't care if someone is feeling Sad, or Alone, or Not Much Fun To Be Around At All. True friends are there for you anyway. And so here we are."

"Oh," said Eeyore. "Oh." And the three of them sat there in silence, and while Pooh and Piglet said nothing at all; somehow, almost imperceptibly, Eeyore started to feel a very tiny little bit better.

Because Pooh and Piglet were There.

No more; no less.

- AA Milne

"Why Did I Do That?"

Feel More In Control by Understanding Attachment Styles

Presented by Christy O’Shoney

Everyone experiences moments of feeling out of control. At times you may find yourself lashing out at others for seemingly trivial reasons. Or maybe you notice that you withdraw from those you love, even though you’re not sure why. Whatever the case may be, it’s likely you’ve asked yourself at one point or another – “Why did I do that?”

One useful way to understand our perplexing behaviors is by looking at them through the lens of attachment. Attachment refers to the way in which our experiences with caretakers early in life may impact our sense of safety and security later on. In other words, your reactions to certain situations may have a lot to do with the environment in which you were raised. Understanding the role attachment plays in your daily life can help you become more compassionate towards yourself when you behave in ways that seem inexplicable to you. Additionally, recognizing your attachment style can help you feel less stuck in the past and more secure in the present. 

Tune into this webinar to:
- Learn about the foundational ideas of attachment theory and how early life experiences may still be affecting you
- Identify your own attachment style
- Understand how your attachment style may be impacting your relationships (romantic, platonic, or even your professional relationships)
- Discover ways to increase your sense of safety so that you can feel more in control of your behaviors moving forward


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